Widow Fights VA for Burial Flag for Deceased Veteran Husband

Widow Fights VA for Burial Flag for Deceased Veteran Husband

January 14, 2016

Widow Fights VA for Burial Flag for Deceased Veteran Husband

A deceased veteran's widow couldn't believe what she heard from the VA after contacting them for her husband's memorial flag. Dee Keeling-Milford was shocked when she was told by a Department of Veterans Affairs representative that her family would not be receiving an honorary veteran's burial flag.

Why would the VA do this to a veteran's family when it has been a long-standing tradition for the VA to give the family of a deceased veteran a memorial flag?

Dee Keeling-Milford says the person at the VA who she spoke with said the reason was simple - her deceased husband did not have a grave site.

"If there's no grave site, there's no flag," that's what Keeling-Milford says V.A. representatives told her when she tried to get an honorary veteran's burial flag.

Instead of being buried, she granted her husband's wish to be cremated and have his ashes scattered.

"He wanted us to get a boat and take him to Port O'Connor, where he fished for 50 years, and feed the fish," said Keeling-Milford.

And because of that decision, she now found herself in a fight with the Department of Veterans Affairs over a right which her husband earned by serving in the U.S. Army.

After countless attempts to get her family's memorial flag, Dee Keeling-Milford contacted KHOU 11 News, and they made a phone call for her. According to the story on their website, here is what transpired.

 

The V.A. apologized and told KHOU 11 that Dee wasn't getting the right story. We connected her with the right person and within minutes, learned a flag was being mailed to her.
"He deserves it," she said, adding that every veteran does and hopes other families will learn from her.
"It's probably happened to a lot of people, but they probably aren't as hard-headed as I am."

 

We are glad to hear there was a happy ending to this story. This should have never happened in the first place and seems to be a continuing pattern of failings on all levels in all departments at the VA.

Thanks to Healing Heroes Network for bringing this story to our attention on their blog.

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5 Responses

Nancy
Nancy

March 25, 2016

We had a funeral parlor say they were out and could not bother to go pick one up at the post office. Needless to say the VVA made it happen and the flag was present. I completely lost respect for that funeral parlor and Never Ever recommend them to anyone and share the story.

Nancy
Nancy

February 22, 2016

The funeral parlor normally handles obtaining it in NY at least. It will be on the casket during the viewing.

Manual Paleologos
Manual Paleologos

February 22, 2016

The people who denied her the flag should be tracked down and fired for cause. Any pension they have should be forfeit.

Isabel Doherty
Isabel Doherty

February 22, 2016

I am also fighting the va but my problem is because my husband didn’t fight one day in any war they will not pay for his memorial he was in the army for 8 year’s I can’t believe they can just treat them like dirt after all they have done to keep are country safe.

Stephanie LeNear
Stephanie LeNear

February 22, 2016

My stepfather did not have a grave site either. They did, however, give my mother a memorial flag. So I can not believe they would not honor her late husband. This is so unfair in so many ways why a wife has to fight with the VA. A grieving wife and I am sure a man who served our country with pride and protected us.I hope that when it comes time ,I do not have the same problem. My husband served for 21 years. He has chosen not to be buried. I hope they change this rule I do not want to have to fight with anyone when my spouse passes, as I will be in morning, Heartbroken and sad.

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